5 Predictors of Dating Success

This week is a biggie for me and Dating Evolved.

It’s now a full 4 years since we kicked off the pilot for our flagship small-group program with two groups of 8 women.

I’m so grateful to these lovely ladies for letting me try out my ideas on them and for giving me fantastic feedback, allowing me to push forward successfully with the program to help more and more women find good partners.

And I’ve been taking a bit of time to reflect on what I’ve learned during these last 4 years, since the pilot, about what predicts my clients' success in finding a good partner. Certainly those who have found their partners quickly and easily have tended to have particular behaviours and attitudes in common, so I thought I’d share these what these are here so you can put them into practice to improve your own chances of finding love.

1. Putting in Time and Effort
Dating isn’t easy – it takes a lot of energy and time and getting out of your comfort zone to get out there to places where you can meet men, and to put effort into online dating – especially if it’s not always going well.

And of course other things in life get in the way – being busy at work, getting that extension done on the house – there’s always something that can side-track you from focussing your love-life.

But those who prioritise dating and put that time and effort in are the ones who get results, I’ve found.

2. Being Intentional & Proactive
Related to time and effort – but going one step further is intentionality and proactivity. This is consciously making, and taking, opportunities to meet people, making the first move sometimes, striking up conversations. There’s plenty of evidence that being proactive will produce results, and if you do the choosing rather than being the chosen – you stand a much better chance of finding the kind of partner who suits YOU.

3. Positivity
If you can come to dating with a positive, friendly attitude, then your chances of success in finding a good guy will massively increase. Coming at online dating or IRL events with a positive, friendly attitude – where you’re expecting to meet nice people – means you stand a much better chance of spotting good men and giving them a chance. Of course you need to use your objective criteria to make sure you avoid problem guys, but generally approaching with friendliness and openness pays big dividends.

Expectations are hugely important in influencing actual outcomes. If you think you're going to meet some nice guys, or you think you'll only come across scammers, players, or emotionally unavailable men, YOU’RE RIGHT!

4. Momentum
Keeping going gets results. Once you know what you need to look for and what to avoid, and how to get out there and do it, it’s a matter of keeping going until you get there. Many of our graduates have demonstrated this to great effect!

5. Engaging with your Community
Crucial in keeping that momentum going, I’ve learned, is having the support of a group of people who know where you’re coming from, people who perhaps are going through similar experiences and who you can commiserate with when things aren’t going so well, and who you can celebrate successes with.

Perhaps you have a great bunch of single friends who can support you like this, but often, at this time in our lives, most of our friends are coupled up and it’s hard to find someone who can relate to what you’re going through, never mind someone who can give an objective opinion on your best moves.

This is one of the big things we help with in the Dating Evolved Small-Group Program. As well as getting all the advice and tools you need to identify, attract, desire and find a good man within the online course provided in the program and in the weekly group discussions – you’ll also have the support of the small group of women you have your weekly calls with going through the modules. You’ll get to know each other really well and become invested in each others’ dating journeys.

On top of this you’ll have a full 12 months of the support of the bigger community in the Dating Evolved Academy where you’ll have a couple of calls each month to keep you motivated, encouraged and accountable until you find your man!

I think if I had to name the biggest predictor of success in my clients, it would likely be engagement with the ongoing calls.

I’m happy to say that I’m still in touch with many of the pilot ladies I mentioned at the start, as well as other early clients, and some still come along to our monthly calls even though they’re now in relationships. They love to give encouragement to those on the calls, which I’ve found makes SO much difference in helping the other ladies in the group to take action and keep going.

Here's what Nicki said to one of the newbies in our last group call (Nicki is one of my early clients and happily coupled up):

"These other ladies are amazing and understand what you're going through. I didn't know what I was doing at the start, but having other women who understand - it's priceless support. You might feel you’re the only one having particular issues with online dating or whatever it is, but you’ll be surprised at how often others are going through – or have gone through - the same as you. We get it!"

So if this sounds like support that YOU could do with, then you might like to consider joining us for our next Small-Group Program Pod, starting calls on Tuesday 5th November.

CLICK HERE FOR DETAILS & SIGN UP FOR THE SMALL-GROUP PROGRAM

And if you’d like a quick chat with me about whether the program is a good fit for you – and other options that might suit – book a time on my calendar >>HERE<<

I’m really looking forward to helping you get the show on the road!

Much love,

Mairi

PS. For success stories and case studies check out our Client Stories page!