Hint: It means not doing what the apps tell you to do

Are you doing online dating?  If so, good on you! 

It's a great way to bump up the number of potentially good men you come into contact with, which obviously increases your chances of finding a great partner.

But don't rely on the algorithm to f...

One of my early Group Program clients – let’s call her Sarah - came to me after a long string of disastrous encounters with unsuitable men.

In common with a lot of us, she had a very definite picture of the kind of man she wanted: He was tall and handsome, reasonably solvent, worldly and charismati...

A question I get asked a lot and one that came up in a recent call with a group of my clients going through the Dating Evolved program is the issue of whether it’s ok to fib a bit about our age on our online dating profile.

Frustrating but true: Hetero men online tend to set the range for age th...

I recently recorded an interview with marital therapist Andrew G Marshall for his podcast "The Meaningful Life".

Have a listen to find out:

- how to build your confidence around dating

- how to spot the kind of guy who would be good for a relationship

- how to avoid getting smitten with a guy wh...

*This article first appeared on NOON.

It used to be so easy didn’t it – sex and relationships? Back in the days of being 20-something there was such a choice of men. If you fell out of one relationship you could just fall right into another.

Back then the world was my oyster. I was a biologist tra...

Among the most common types of questions I get asked by women over 50 looking to find a man are –

“Am I too independent to attract a man?"

"Are qualities like independence, strength, intelligence a turn-off for men?”

It’s a pretty frustrating thought – you’ve spent your entire adulthood striving ...

I was recently interviewed by James Preece for his podcast - the Love Machine. 

Have a listen to find out:

*A version of this article first appeared in the Independent on 30 August 2021

As I perch amongst a clump of Isoglossa stems I train my binoculars on a female samango monkey I’ve named Pica. I’ve followed her through the forest, a long way from the rest of her troop, and now she’s cautiously app...

If I asked you “what are the most important attributes to pay attention to when picking a partner?”, what would you say?

A great sense of humour maybe? Kindness? Honesty? A bulging bank-balance perhaps?

Whatever it is, it’s unlikely to be what gives you the hots for a guy when you first meet him –...

I meet so many women in midlife who are completely sorted. They’re gorgeous, they’re fit and healthy, they’ve got successful careers, they’re independent and know how to do all the things.

But they can’t find a man – at least not one that meets their standards. And their standards tend to be high –...

We’ve all come across women who pretend to have the intellect of a 4 year-old child and have men eating out of their hand.

Just think of Marilyn Monroe. She was a highly intelligent woman, but still decided to sing “happy birthday Mr President” in her 1964 Madison Square Gardens performance in a re...

I think you’ll agree – we women in our 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond are more sorted than ever.

We’ve got our careers and we’re usually earning our own money, often plenty of it. We know what we like and we know how to go and get it.

We’re independent, successful women.

But for all our fabulous achiev...