This week is a biggie for me and Dating Evolved.

It’s now a full 4 years since we kicked off the pilot for our flagship small-group program with two groups of 8 women.

I’m so grateful to these lovely ladies for letting me try out my ideas on them and for giving me fantastic feedback,...

When we’re perusing men on dating apps, or checking out the talent at a singles event, the first thing we’ll tend to focus on is how a guy looks – and that tends to have a pretty big influence on whether or not we’re open to getting to know him.

But it’s worth...

Dating Evolved is all about giving you good dating advice – how to find a man you can be happy with. But to be in a healthy place for dating, and to be able to give a good guy a chance, you’ll need to get over any exes lurking in the background - even in your mind.

Why so important to...

Many women, when they first start dating, particularly if they’re online dating, they often say that it’s exhausting. They spend a lot of time and energy meeting up with men, only to find the date doesn’t go anywhere or it’s so boring they want to stick pins in their arms...

For many, online dating can be a rough ride. I’ve lost count of the number of women who have initially come to me saying it can never work.. The men on the sites are awful… They get horrible, disrespectful or mind-numbingly boring messages.

But I also have many, many women among my...

When I’m in the initial stages of talking with clients, or when we’re having discussions in the Dating Evolved Facebook Group about online dating – a common refrain is that all the guys on the sites or apps are awful…

There ARE definitely a lot of decent men out...

Would you go for a guy significantly younger than you?

As someone happily partnered with a guy several years younger than me, I'm very positive about relationships where the guy is younger than the woman.

And I feel my view is somewhat validated by research on couples with a 10+ year age...

During calls with my clients we regularly talk about exchanges they’ve had with men online or things they’ve noticed about a guy on a first date, and it seems that many are very ready to write a man off because of a “red flag”.

Of course I absolutely agree that it’s...

If you’ve been following Dating Evolved for any length of time you’ll know that I advocate a “slow burn” approach to getting together with a guy.

I didn’t always think like this. Like many women I thought there had to be “chemistry” at the beginning to...

The day I arrived to live in Edinburgh was, I think, the worst day of my life.

Don’t get me wrong – I totally love this city, and it’s one of the best places in the world to live. It just didn’t get off to the best start for me.

The thing is, on that day I was escaping...

Meeting a good man is partly a numbers game.

To meet a man who would suit you for a relationship you’ve got to meet some men. And the more men you can meet, the more chance you’ll find a gem among them.

I always advocate including online dating in your strategy, as it’s a way of...

One of my mentors, Professor Robin Dunbar is an evolutionary psychologist and biologist and he and his team at the University of Oxford have been studying friendships and social networks for the last couple of decades. He published a review of his work a few years ago and it began with this...